I bought a huge green fur hat from Marc Jacobs. It’s very warm, very green and attracts many, many comments.
The people who comment fall into three distinct groups.
1. The people who comment most are African-American men and women who approach me with huge smiles and open hearts and say wonderful things about the hat.
They tell me how happy it makes them. They ask where they could get one. They love the color. They hold me at the checkout at Trader Joe’s and ask if they can touch it. Black school kids holler across the street.
2. White woman tentatively tell me how much they like it, how warm they imagine it is. They rarely look me in the eye and their diminished confidence allows them only the slightest… but genuine opinion.
3. Gay men. I sighed writing that. Gay men. I sighed again.
When gay white men (strangers) talk to me about my hat it is always with sneering disregard. They go out of their way to say something catty and unpleasant. They look at me witheringly, their comments infused with: who do you think you are wearing that absurd hat? They dress compliments up in such a way that confuses the listener.
If the African-Americans who complement my hat had not done so I would have nothing to compare the responses of the gays. I might think I was going crazy. But I’m not.
We all know what a heartfelt compliment sounds like and the gays seem incapable of giving one… unless (of course) they want to get laid.
Here are more pictures of our brief stay in Malibu and our trip home.
3 replies on “Green Fur Hat”
It’s sooooooooooooo Nureyev. I love it. Have you seen the picture I’m talking about: http://caviardujour.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/Nureyev.jpg
Well, there remains the issue of real vs. fake fur, or cruel vs. cruelty-free-but-resource-intensive fur.
I forgot to tie in your experiences with those of Mr. CRISP.
Upon fleeing to Manhattan, Mr. CRISP came to realize that in England the English did not merely fail to hesitate to get in his face and demand to know how dare he?, they seemingly relished doing so.