Had a great night out with my friend Ryan. We headed over to Tod’s shoe store on Rodeo in Beverly Hills for a party that a bunch of worthy LAers were throwing to welcome Jeffrey Deitch the new MOCA director to a bunch of LA’s finest. Jessica Alba, Kate Beckinsale, Angelica Huston etc etc.
Met up with Miggy and her girlfriend and their charming journalist friend from the Sunday Times who had seen the sex rehab show. He seemed really impressed. It is so odd to have left something indelible in the life of another. It is even odder to have people come up to you who are well known (famous even) telling you how much you have helped them. Ended up chatting to Gavin Rossdale about our friend Sebastian Horsley who is best known for crucifying himself in the Philippines-with real nails in his palms. He then fell off the cross.
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Leaving something indelible stayed with me throughout dinner at the 101-where we ate the Thursday Fried Chicken Special of course.
I was going onto another party but bailed after dinner, I need to be on my own. To get used to it once again.
Indelible, irrevocable-something irrevocable. Changing somebody irrevocably. I may have done that too often to count on the fingers of two hands.
This time I am changed irrevocably. Something has shifted in me. Most of the people I have gotten close to recently have in some way been associated with or saw the sex rehab show. My generous NYC friend, my recently ended relationship and Jennie, let’s not forget Jennie. I think it maybe time to reconnect to those I knew before.
I think that even though these new friends know my story they don’t really take how seriously I believe in the power of recovery. I really do believe in the tenets of AA. I really do.
I came so close during the past month to using alcohol and drugs because I so desperately wanted to fit in with my new friend. I told him that I would take drugs so our sex life would get better. I thought about taking a drink. I seriously considered it. But if I had what would I have been left with now? Nothing. No relationship, no sobriety, absolutely nothing. At the end of the day all I own is my sobriety and my name.
There are fire trucks outside the building.
So, I pass through to the other side. Where I am on my own again. With out recourse to long, late night conversations. I am on my own and happy to be so.
The other burgeoning relationship in my life is with a young man who came to me for help with his sex addiction. He came along at just the right moment. To help him recover from a masturbation addiction. He checks in every day and God, yet again, is doing for me what I refuse to do for myself. Rather than drowning in self-pity I am helping a man less fortunate than myself and so, yet again, I am changed, refocused.
I had a short text exchange with the other this evening and rather than making me hanker for him it just made things easier to deal with. My darling New York boy is on his true path and that, I suppose, is something to do with me. A helping hand out of the darkness and into the light. An irrevocable change.
How many people fall in love with the person who helps save their life? Not many. Who is falling in love with the firemen or the nurse or the doctor?
Very sleepy now. I need to sink under the sheets and tomorrow-well perhaps I will be able to write the other stuff I write. Maybe.